So it's ok for the girl to look through your ims, missed calls, texts while you're not around, but when you want to check what time you texted her for some reason right in front of her it's a privacy issue and grounds to overreact?

6/17/2008 12:57:37 AM

she's cheating. she's got a reason to be paranoid. so why are you still with her, the sex can't be that good.

6/17/2008 12:59:13 AM

haha one time i got on my exroomies laptop and went through his aim logs of his gf....there were like 4 times while they were together she'd im other dudes and be like "hey you want to come over? i'm horny..."

6/17/2008 1:00:03 AM

dump dat h0

6/17/2008 1:00:17 AM

what's sad is i'm pretty much apathetic even when I tell myself it's probably true... lol I kicked her out of the apartment so at least I can watch tv in peace now

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:01 AM. Reason : extra I]

6/17/2008 1:01:06 AM

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"So it's ok for the girl to look through your ims, missed calls, texts while you're not around"

no. no this is not okay.
I would have flipped the fuck out

6/17/2008 1:01:24 AM

you got something to hide?

6/17/2008 1:02:04 AM

^^ that is the correct answer.

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:02 AM. Reason : h]

6/17/2008 1:02:25 AM

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"So it's ok for the girl to look through your ims, missed calls, texts while you're not around"

No its not ok. I wouldn't want to be with someone that I would feel the need to do all that. nor would I want a guy going through my things.

6/17/2008 1:02:46 AM

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"So it's ok for the girl to look through your ims, missed calls, texts while you're not around"

You're a guy so don't leave ims, missed calls, and texts laying around, just get rid of them.

6/17/2008 1:03:28 AM

nope, nothing to hide
I don't go snooping on other people's things, they should give me the same courtesy.

and yes^^

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:04 AM. Reason : carrot]

6/17/2008 1:04:21 AM

I mean, I asked her to see her phone, and she handed it over and I was like cool I need to fill out my time sheet so I need to check what time i texted you for lunch so I can record my hours. Some messages from some guys I didn't recognize and one said they'd had a horrible day blah blah blah... like I said I could care less, but when she saw I was looking through them she freaked out

6/17/2008 1:04:34 AM

dump

6/17/2008 1:04:45 AM

TRUST

6/17/2008 1:06:47 AM

Blah blah

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:09 AM. Reason : don't know what uga has to do with anything]

6/17/2008 1:08:58 AM

She went to UGA as a frosh and you weren't there, man I would run if you dated in HS or something.

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"No its not ok. I wouldn't want to be with someone that I would feel the need to do all that. nor would I want a guy going through my things."

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:10 AM. Reason : .]

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:11 AM. Reason : .]

6/17/2008 1:09:32 AM

Drop
That
Bitch

6/17/2008 1:11:22 AM

she prolly has a really tight vag or something

6/17/2008 1:13:12 AM

^^^ was a summer thing that just kinda carried over through the semester. I visited a few times, she did the same, then she transferred in the spring.

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:14 AM. Reason : ^]

6/17/2008 1:13:35 AM

not possible after fucking around with all those guys.

6/17/2008 1:15:09 AM

yeah if u dated the summer before her freshman year I would run (that's what all relationships like that do you see the other a few weekends, and then each person especially the freshman girl looks for a reason to break it off).

I'm not a mind reader, there is a reason I called this in my post above.

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:19 AM. Reason : .]

6/17/2008 1:18:27 AM

^I got to go to UGA football games for free lol

6/17/2008 1:23:34 AM

just keep hitting it... but wrap it up.


you say you're apathetic... so dont get emotional. Treat it as sex. Manipulate her.

6/17/2008 1:38:21 AM

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"You're a guy so don't leave ims, missed calls, and texts laying around, just get rid of them."

Phone > Text Messages > Settings > Auto Erase Messages > ON

6/17/2008 1:51:32 AM

I have nothing to hide, I really could care less if she goes through that shit, i'd just rather her not do it behind my back... and i've asked her more than once not to.

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:57 AM. Reason : conj]

6/17/2008 1:52:36 AM

she's even told me she'd rather me be more jealous and I can understand being protective over her but I refuse to get jealous over some trivial shit like this. It's almost like she's a glutton for punishment

6/17/2008 1:54:59 AM

Yeah, I understand. I really could care less, I have nothing to hide. I mean seriously, if you aren't doing shit then what does it matter. Which is why I feel like your girlfriend is up to something. She may not be cheating on you, but she's up to something or has some fucked up trust issues.

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 1:56 AM. Reason : -]

6/17/2008 1:55:44 AM

IF YOU COULD CARE LESS, THEN PLEASE, FUCKING CARE LESS!1

6/17/2008 2:01:54 AM

i clean out my texts just in case

6/17/2008 2:02:06 AM

i dont

this falls under the category of MY BUSINESS

6/17/2008 2:11:00 AM

you can't triple stamp a double stamp

6/17/2008 2:27:03 AM

fact: she is cheating

fact: you care or you wouldn't have made a thread

fact: you don't need to break up with her because she already has with you, emotionally.

i hope all that helps

6/17/2008 9:27:41 AM

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"No its not ok. I wouldn't want to be with someone that I would feel the need to do all that. nor would I want a guy going through my things."

Everybody gets curious, but people need to show more trust and self control.

How long have you guys been going out?

6/17/2008 9:36:47 AM

^ i only got curious when i had a feeling that something was up.... and if she's looking, it means she doesnt trust....



run...run far, far away

6/17/2008 9:38:19 AM

^^^lol ok it's called venting online because it's 1 in the morning and you don't want to bother actual friends with this stuff. She's not cheating, i'm not exactly the sweetest and kindest guy in the world, there's no reason for her to stick around dating me if she'd found something better, especially since she had the option to stay at UGA.

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"fact: you don't need to break up with her because she already has with you, emotionally."

please tell me you don't talk like that in real life.

and ^^ a year in July, she just bought me a dog for the anniversary deal, which is pretty awesome.

6/17/2008 9:40:26 AM

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"So it's ok for the girl to look through your ims, missed calls, texts while you're not around, but when you want to check what time you texted her for some reason right in front of her it's a privacy issue and grounds to overreact?"

deja fucking vu. my best advice to you my friend, is get out. she has something to hide, whether you think so or not. trust me on this one

6/17/2008 9:41:27 AM

I think everything said so far in this thread sums up my feelings on this pretty well. Run away, she's doing something she feels is wrong and doesn't want you to know about it. I'd say confront her about why she's so secretive about her other guy friends. No reason for her to be secretive unless she's cheating on you.

6/17/2008 9:46:42 AM

lol i just kicked her out so I could finish a lab report and called her back at 3 am and told her to come back over and we talked about it. She said I always get angry when she does it and she's just not used to me doing it, she let me go through and read the ones i wanted to read and like I figured it was no big deal.

6/17/2008 9:50:04 AM

my ex never trusted me, to the point that I even deleted all the instant messaging programs from my computer. if i laid my phone down on the table face down, she would accuse me of trying to hide something. whenever i would go out of town she would search through my computer, all my dresser drawers, etc etc trying to find shit. of course, she never did. we argued over her lack of trust constantly, and this was after dating for 3 years.

the moral of this story: She cheated on me with a guy she met on Myspace.

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 9:51 AM. Reason : s]

6/17/2008 9:50:52 AM

after she had plenty of time to delete the incriminating ones

6/17/2008 9:51:22 AM

snooping brings nothing but trouble

6/17/2008 9:51:56 AM

I don't snoop, I don't care

if a chick is gonna cheat she'll do it whether you are worried about it or not... so why be stressed and be trippin when she's gonna do it if she wants to anyway

tell the bitch to quit trippin or you're gonna leave her

6/17/2008 9:53:28 AM

^^^ i got a quick glimpse at the only ones that looked incriminating anyway. and got to read those, but you may be right, she made have had others, who knows.

probably wouldn't have used the same word choice but ^yes

[Edited on June 17, 2008 at 9:54 AM. Reason : ehh]

6/17/2008 9:54:04 AM

Just ignore her, women can't stand that.

6/17/2008 9:55:27 AM

try living with her for a year and having her get weird random text messages in the middle of the night. never questioning her because you assume that "she would never do something like that to me, especially considering how much she questions my actions". so you put it behind you and ignore it.

DON'T IGNORE IT DUDE.

6/17/2008 9:56:47 AM

i did that all night until the point I told her to leave until her attitude changed.

6/17/2008 9:57:06 AM

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"So it's ok for the girl to look through your ims, missed calls, texts while you're not around, but when you want to check what time you texted her for some reason right in front of her it's a privacy issue and grounds to overreact"

Ha ha no there is no double standard here! If I don't approve, he doesn't approve either and we are fine with that.

I don't care if he goes through my and phone and he really doesn't care if I go through his.. its weird, but I feel uncomfortable going through his because I shouldn't have to. We trust eachother...

6/17/2008 9:57:37 AM

as doug martsch said:

"you can't trust anyone, because you're untrustable"

6/17/2008 9:58:17 AM

I'm telling you man, you can think that shes not hiding something and rationalize it all you want, but its a matter of public record that those who are untrusting usually have something to hide themselves.

shes really not in this relationship for you. more than likely shes a little clingy and has one of those "i can't be alone complexes". she will continue to look for something better (read: different, and in reality probably worse) than you and as soon as she thinks she has found that person who will more provide for her whatever it is that she is lacking internally she will go for it.

i give your relationship four months.

but that shouldn't matter because you really don't care and its just a summer thing that ran over. moot point, i guess.

6/17/2008 10:08:55 AM

tell her to stop or you're gonna dump her ass


then just be happy you were hitting it for a while because in the end you did what you really wanted to do anyway, have sex with her

6/17/2008 10:13:25 AM